In relationships, women tend to be vocal with their issues unlike men who tend to buckle up theirs. For any relationship to thrive, both partners have to learn how to communicate and be vulnerable to each other. A relationship should be your safe place and most times men often find it hard communicating with their partner as they usually overthink everything.
Here are some common thoughts of guys in a relationship:
1. Am I As Good as Her Ex?
In everyone’s life there’s usually that partner that has set the bar so high that others can’t get there no matter how they try. They occupy a place in their heart and it’s usually their first love or first sex.
Men often think about this and compare themselves to the man/men that have been in their partner’s lives.
They often compare themselves in bed, stability, good-looking and often wonder if he will ever make it to the top in her heart.
Most guys feel threatened by the men before them and often ask themselves these questions.
2. Am I Good Enough?
When a man falls in love with a woman, he tries to create a paradise for her. He tries to make life fun and better for her as much as he can. It’s at this moment he starts doubting his abilities and capabilities. He often wonders if he’s enough or good for her.
3. Will I lose my Freedom?
Some relationships often turn out to be a cage in disguise. In this situation it reminds the man of his childhood when he always asks for permission befor he does anything. No one loves being treated like a child so this often becomes a concern to the man.
No one wants to be in a situation where they always have to explain themselves or take permission from people before doing anything, this is quite different from Communicating with your partner and coming at a conclusion.
Everyone have things they do or parts of their life that means so much to them, so it’s a great concern to some men as they won’t love to lose it.
4. Will She Try to Change Me?
Everyone’s greatest fear is entering a relationship with a partner that won’t accept them wholly but works towards checking them.
For men, maybe he loves sitting on the couch after the day’s work and trying to play video games to relieve stress, some game night with the boys does it for them.
A man is usually afraid of being with a spouse who will try to change him or control things he does.
One of the reason a relationship thrives is when it’s built on trust and communication. There are some certain decisons or choices you don’t have to make for your partner, let them live their life, that’s the only way they can work towards being better versions of themselves.