Being in a relationship takes a lot of time and effort from both partners. Most times we feel we are working towards making a relationship better but little do we know that these are unhealthy behaviors. Here are some mistakes women make in a relationship:
1. Stop Picking Fights
A relationship isn’t perfect, but it’s meant to be your safe place after a hectic day outside and not another war zone.
Women often find it hard to understand this, constantly picking fights in your relationship can get so toxic or make your partner to leave.
If you feel there’s a problem, take time to process your feelings, choose your words properly and engage in a healthy conversation with your partner instead of getting aggressive or confrontational.
2. Stop Being Selfish or trying to control everything
Relationship is a give and take situation. You don’t expect your partner to provide all the love and care while you be at the receiving end of it all. Treat your man the way you want him to treat you, don’t be selfish, he’s human too and deserves the good things.
Trying to control everything that happens in your relationship and in your partner’s life can come out as being controlling, toxic and emotionally insecure. Your partner can have a different life from the relationship and that’s okay. It’s just importance the both parties keep everything transparent and learn now to communicate.
3. Stop being his greatest critic or trying to change him
There’s a difference between positive criticism and being overly critic. Everyone makes mistakes, no one is perfect and always criticising everything your partner does affects their confidence and makes them think they aren’t good enough and can never get anything right.
People are complex and you don’t expect them to be like you hence you shouldn’t try to change your partner. There’s a difference between working with him to become a better version of himself and trying to change him into a different person in other to fit the picture you want.
It’s not healthy to force or talk your partner into changing themselves, they should want it too.
4. Stop holding grudges
If you truly love someone you won’t hold a grudge or resentment against them for long. It’s not even healthy for any partner as it puts a strain on their emotional and physical health. It can become a toxic ground for both parties and no one deserves to go through that. Learn to settle whatever issue you have with your man, move on and leave it in the past.
There’s no perfect relationship, it only takes efforts from both partners to make it work.